Stress Managment and Mastery: Progress vs. Perfection

David Bowie once sang, "Ch-ch-changes, tryin' to face the strain."
And though working on changes in our lives can be difficult at times, it really doesn't have to be such a strain.
Where did we get the notion that change has to be such a struggle? And what would it be like if we could make change easier?
That's what I have spent most of my career doing, finding the simplest, fastest and most effective ways to help people get the changes they want and need.
With that in mind, let's look at one of the major roadblocks to achieving lasting change, and then look at what to do about it.
Perfection vs. Progress
The failure to understand the important distinction between perfection and progress is a major stumbling block to lasting change.
Far too many people get stuck in demanding perfection from themselves and from others.
This leaves little or no room for appreciating the progress that might be happening.
So let's take a look and discover whether you are demanding perfection or appreciating progress. And then most importantly, how to focus on progress.
Demanding Perfection
So many people are stuck in the myth that in order to change, you have to do it perfectly, with no slip-ups. That's just not reality.
Here are some signs that you may be stuck in demanding perfection:
If you slip up just once, i.e., you go off your diet for one night, you say the heck with it and trash the whole plan.
You feel constantly defeated when trying to change.
You try to change too much all at once. There is just no way to get rid of 30 pounds in one month without amputation.
Appreciating Progress
Even the smallest amount of progress is still progress. It's still change. Here's how to focus on appreciating the progress:
Celebrate all improvements, even the smallest changes.
If a change looks too big to accomplish, break it down into smaller, more manageable parts, i.e. Just for today, I will ...
Do a little bit more, go a little bit further, each day.
There's the story of a middle-aged man who decided to take up running. The first day, he could only make it past his own house before he had to stop. The next day he went one house further, the next day another house further and so on. In less than a year, he entered and completed a marathon - that's 26-plus miles.
Recognize the process of change. Most folks think that once they learn something new, the changes happen all at once. Sometimes that's true, but more often change happens in four stages:
1. You learn some new skills, but do the same old thing that doesn't work again.
2. You catch yourself in the middle of doing the same old thing that doesn't work, stop and then do something new and different.
3. You stop yourself before you do the same old thing that doesn't work, and do something new and different.
4. You just naturally do something new and different.
Change does not have to be a strain, or even very difficult at all. You just have to enjoy the progress and keep at it.
Remember, in the battle between the rock and the river, the river always wins because the river just keeps at it.

Stress Managment: Worry - Anxiety - Fear

Worry/Anxiety
Anxiety and its partner, worry,' are specific forms of fear. They can also be some of the most insidious and crippling emotions.
Worry can be useful if it motivates you to take action to make changes. Worry then becomes action.
Worry becomes a problem when we believe the big lie that "if only I worry enough about this, it will be OK"
The best definition I've ever heard of anxiety goes like this:
"Anxiety is when we mentally fastforward - to some possible future problem and our emotions catch up to match up our picture."
In other words, anxiety is often caused by repeatedly picturing negative outcomes and then dragging our emotions along for the ride.
Fear
All of us must deal with fear in our lives. As a matter of fact, people who tell me they are never afraid tend to scare me.
It's my experience that they are lying, or worse.
Fear is so common that we can identify several general fears that are familiar to all of us. Here is a partial list of fears I hear about regularly in my office:
o Fear of rejection. From the nervous teen-age boy who hangs up the phone when the girl answers, to the adult who is afraid to ask for a raise, fear of rejection keeps us from asking for what we want.
o Fear of failure.
o Fear of success.
o Fear of being smothered or fear of being abandoned in elationships.
While there are certainly times when fear is an appropriate response, fear many times simply holds us back from accomplishing what we want.
Here are two tips for dealing successfully with fear.
o Remember that courage is not having no fear at all. Courage is feeling the fear and proceeding anyway.
o One of the best ways of dealing with fear that I've found comes in the form of an acronym: Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
What "false evidence" are you allowing to limit your life? What might that mean when you examine some of your fears?

Stress Managment: 12 Universal Laws for Managing Anger

1. The Law of Everyone
It is not neccessarily wrong to get angry. You get angry, I get angry, all God's children get angry. It's what we do with our anger that makes the difference.
2. The Law of Stress
Although we don't often think of anger as a form of stress, it is by far one of the largest and most destructive forms of daily stress. Manage your anger, and you manage a large amount of your stress.
3. The Law of Choice
Anger is rarely if ever an automatic response. It's a choice. It's a choice because we have to think about something before we get angry.
4. The Law of Shoulds
We all have beliefs about how the world and the people around us should behave. When these beliefs are violated, anger is a natural, and sometimes reasonable response. The problem is that when we "should" on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger.
For example, if we run the sentence "that driver should not have cut in front of me" over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be pretty. At best we'll raise our blood pressure, and at worst do something really stupid.
5. The Law of Blame
Another one of our thoughts that lead quickly to anger involves
blaming someone or something. The dance of blame is a deadly two step:
1) someone is at fault, and
2) they should be punished - anger can be very punishing.
6. The Law of Cause
This one is closely related to the law of blame. There is a myth in our culture that very few people ever question. The best example is the phrase "he made me angry."
Well, bull! No one can make us angry without our cooperation.
7. The Law of Emflaming
Another myth is that if we are able to vent our anger it will
automatically decrease. That is not necessarily so. I once watched a neighbor stomp around the side of his house, grumbling and swearing as he went. Stomping by the air conditioning unit, he smashed his fist down on top of it. That move not only made him more angry, it looked to me like it hurt a lot too. Grumbling and swearing even louder, he stomps into his backyard and kicks a lounge chair. It didn't appear to calm
him down, and it looked like that one hurt too. I found out later that he broke both his hand and his foot on his romp around the yard.
8. The Law of Source
In almost every case, anger is a secondary emotion. In other words, we experience some other strong emotion before we feel the anger. Follow the source and you usually come up with one of three strong emotions - fear, frustration or hurt, or some combination of the above. Deal with fear, frustration and hurt and you can cut anger off at the pass.
9. The Law of Battles
Learn to pick your battles. If you get angry at everything, then your anger means nothing. If that sounds confusing, here's an example: how much would gold be worth if we all had it in abundance? That's right, not much. Gold is valuable because it is so rare. If you are always getting angry, people stop taking you seriously and just want to avoid you.
10. The Law of Worth
Ask your self this question: "is this situation worth getting angry over?" Most time it just isn't.
11. The Law of Muscles
Learn to exercise your choice muscles.We can choose to be angry or we can choose another way of handling the situation.
12. The Law of Channeling
When you do get angry, channel it into something you can use to benefit you, such as motivating you into changing what can be changed.

A Simple Tool For Marketing Your Event Managment Company

People always have an event to plan, however, they rarely give it the proper time and attention until deadlines start rolling in. This is true of weddings, anniversary parties, vow renewals and graduation parties. The goal of your event managment company is to get them thinking about important details before it is too late to make them happen easily. One surefire tool that you can use to bring both your cause and your company to the forefront of people's minds is simple to use and easy to create.
Article marketing has long been an effective online tool for getting the word out about your business. This is when companies create tight, informative articles that draw readers in by providing invaluable information that can be easily accessed. There is another tier however to this level of marketing that you can use to remind potential clients of their pending events and assert yourself as the best resource for event planning.
With each article that you write you can refer potential clients to an e-mail newsletter that your company offers for free. Each month or twice monthly you can share updates and information with a growing group of individuals. By requesting your newsletter individuals allow you access to their e-mail address, which enables you to compile a comprehensive mailing list of people and companies that are interested in event management services.
In each publication you have a prime opportunity to remind your readers that planning should happen well before the event itself. You can offer useful tips for delegating responsibilities and managing resources. You can also detail why having a professional planner for certain events is often necessary.
They key is to make sure that every thing that is published in your name online represent valid and valuable data. Using spam to promote your business will rapidly establish an unsavory and lasting reputation. Most frequent internet users have very little patience with postings that prove a waste of their time, and the unlimited options that they have will quickly guide these same away from a site, article or newsletter that is poorly and hastily designed.
Think fresh content. Read the articles that were written by others in your niche and make it a point to cover grounds that have not already been tread and re-tread. Essentially, the idea is to develop your own voice and to maintain a unique edge over your competitors.
You should also never underestimate the power of free things. Your newsletter is free and that is a draw in itself. You can also use this opportunity to advertise free offers that you are able to present without jeopardizing the financial stability of your company. This can be a free consultation, free centerpiece or other thoughtful item that you business can afford to extend.
With a little diligence and innovation you can bring your event managment company to the forefront of the available market. You can remind potential clients that it is necessary to get planning done early and helpful to have professional assistance on the way. With very little money and time invested, you can provide a huge boost to your business.

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